my dad passes away at 82

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Damir Besic
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my dad passes away at 82

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https://youtu.be/UVXGVbWF8a0


tell your loved ones how much you love them every day, like it is the last time you see them, because, you never know ... I didn't, and my heart and soul are hurting...
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So sorry for your loss Damir. Prayers for you and your family.
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Sorry for your loss. Liked your video and music, very nice.
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Post by Jerry Overstreet »

Condolences on the loss of your father Damir. Nice musical reflection there.
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thank you so much guys, instead to leave him with a big hug and a kiss, I left without a word after a stupid argument... I did talked to him on the phone after that, and I did told him I love him, he couldn't talk due to his recent stroke... I will never forgive myself for acting like an stupid idiot :(
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Sending prayers for you and family!
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Just remember the happy times with your dad. Forgiveness works both ways.....praying for you....clark
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Very sorry for your loss Damir.
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Post by Carl Williams »

Damir,
My most sincere condolences. I've never had the opportunity to meet you but from a distance, your Dad raised a fine son and gentleman. Don't be too hard on yourself. Carl
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Be kind to yourself as we all fall short in some way or another...my sympathies to you Damir...
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Damir, I'm so sorry. My prayers are with you, my friend.
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thank you my dear friends, thank you very much :(
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I'm so sorry for your loss. I still have visits from my Dad every so often, in my dreams.

Lee, from South Texas
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Post by Jeff Garden »

I am so sorry for your sad news, Damir, and send condolences to you and your family.
My Dad passed away suddenly and I was never able to say goodbye but over time, I learned to focus on the happy memories we had together and it helped with the healing.
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Damir,
Your music dedication to your dad is beautiful! I am so sorry for your loss, and can tell that you are really hurting. I'm glad you were able to talk on the phone before he died. It's not just the words or a hug that convey love, you know. He knew you loved him. I pray that you and your family will experience peace as you grieve your father's passing.
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So sorry to hear this Damir. It is a very sad time for you. I wish you the Best and My Prayers go out to you and your whole family. May God Bless & Keep You. J.R.
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Damir
My condolences to you on your loss. I hope you can forgive yourself for your strained relationship. I would bet your dad would not want you to punish yourself either. May you find peace and God bless you.

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My condolences to you, Damir.
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Condolences, Damir. Your message is so true. Never pass up an opportunity to tell your loved ones that you love them. One day that opportunity will be gone.
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God Bless this family in their time of need, Amen.

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Damir, I'm sorry to hear of your father's passing. He knew you loved him, just as you knew he loved you. We all have some moments we're not to proud of, but in the end you made right and that is what truly matters. You and your family will be in my prayers in the days to come. Take care and God Bless my friend.
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Post by Doug Earnest »

I said a prayer for you and your father as I watched that wonderful video you composed. The same thing happened to me. Don't dwell on it. In the big scheme of eternity it doesn't make any difference. Best wishes and sincere sympathy to you, my friend.
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My sincere sympathy for your loss Damir. Don't be too hard on yourself. As was posted before, we all have things we would do differently the second time around but the result may be no different. They're is a grand plan for us all that we don't control.
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Post by Walter Stettner »

My condolences, Damir. I know it hurts, lost my Dad 9 years ago and still feel it.

Kind Regards, Walter
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So sorry to hear the Prayers for the family
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Post by Charlie McDonald »

My biggest sympathies for you, Damir.

I didn't get to say goodbye to my dad either; he and I weren't conversant about love, but I know how he felt about me,
and I think he knew how I felt about him. Still I remember the big hole in my middle that I experienced for quite a while.

The things Donna says are true. Forgiveness comes, and it's mostly forgiving ourselves,
and then one wonders if there was anything to forgive.